It’s A BOY…..or girl

    

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So my little sea monkey now looks like a alien. YAY alien baby. heh well ill tell you what it goes a lot faster than you think it would. we are 20 weeks into pregnancy half way over. its a strange feeling sometimes just thinking about the little thing in Christina’s belly. she started feeling it recently and wow that is crazy too. sometimes its hard to really wrap your head around that there is some living little thing in there. i automatically think she got a face hugger on her and she feels fine and then at dinner bam little alien comes out. he he seriously though its a strange feeling cause it kicks so hard you can see her stomach move and you can feel it hit your hand. I can’t even think about what that would feel like on the inside. but any way we went to the doctors today for our 20 week ultrasound and check up. Up front everything looks great. 10 finger 10 toes a head and some other parts. everything points to a beautiful healthy baby just needs to bake for a few more months. So we have had a few arguments/disagreements lately concerning the baby. let me break it down for you so you will compeletly understand every argument

 

ME

Don’t want to know the sex

 

HER

Wants to know the sex!!!

so now your up to speed. I really would never have believed that we would dispute so much over this. even though i should have seen it coming. Christina is a very planed organized have to know everything to plan everything type of person. i am the type of person that … how does she say it…… the kind of person that flies by the seat of his pants. yeah that it. so personality wise we are ying and yang we fit perfectly together cause the things she really cares about and wants to control i don’t care and let her control it. and just the opposite so we complement each other rather well. but i will tell you what we have butt heads on this topic more than we have ever butted heads being married. mainly cause the dispute never ends cause no one is right and no one is wrong thats what makes this such a hard thing to dispute cause this is a dispute where no one is winning or losing.( i keep saying dispute cause its not an argument where it ends up screaming and throwing things across the room FIGHT. it just disagreeing) I never wanted to know what my first child is i think the joy of finding out when you first see it is part of the fun the experience. that is something that will stick in your mind for the rest of your life kinda thing. Its just something that makes that moment even better. it one of the last real surprises left in a persons life. then walking out to the waiting room where you family is and saying Its a (insert gender here)!!!! what a feeling it must be. thats what i have tried to explain to her but she thinks its just as surprising knowing while she is laying on a table with a bunch of jelly on her stomach while a woman rubs this probe on her belly and we see something or nothing on a black and white monitor ITS A ….. yeah thats not exciting not a moment you will remember for the rest of your life. it goes yeah we found out what you were we planned and everything…. meh. everything she comes up with i come with a counter and vise versa so you see how difficult it is to disagree on such a topic. so what are we doing? as of now we do not know the sex….. as of now.

(fingers crossed)

-MeaD.

Life Lessons & Pregnancy.

 

So i have realized i am not always the brightest bulb in the pack. why do I say this cause i have done things with out thinking and realized that i really should have thought that thru again. I have recently realized there are new rules that have came into play since my wife has been pregnant. things that i never would have thought about before hand. So when a woman becomes pregnant hormones go thru the roof….of a 40 story building. everything is heightened and more touchy. its easier to hurt feelings. words are misunderstood and taken wrong. I am not going to go into super detial with all of these examples. What i am going to do is tell you things that you never should do. One thing i have learned recently is never ever ever rent or watch a love story sappy movie with out expecting her to start crying. Crying whats wrong with that ” AHHH why did you get this!! I’m Crying like a baby NOW MY EYES ARE GOING TO BE PUFFY IN THE MORNING THANKS ALOT!!!” yeah….. don’t do that stick to comedies. The ovbious never talk about weight. you will find that your words seem more harsh and mean when a woman is pregnant or she will think that. i know my wife is great i could say alot and she would never take offense to any of it. Something changes in a woman though no matter how cool they are when not pregnant when they do get pregnant watch your words. i have a simple 12 step process that will help you if you think something or want to say something that might hurt her feelings. or something that she will get mad at you about. so just follow these simple steps.

1. get a pen and paper

2. write your thought down make sure its legible and clear and concise.

3. fold in half and then half again.

4. go to a secluded spot in the woods

5. start a small fire

6. once you are warmed by the fire.  Place all your Feelings, Emotions & the note in the center of the coals

7. once note, feelings & emotions are ash put out fire

8. collect all ashes and put in a coffee can.

9. drive to another state with coffee can.

10. bury the can.

11. go back home forget about everything. 

12. repeat process as many times as necessary (choose different states each time)

MeaD don’t you think these steps are a bit much?! ill tell you what friend I would gladly go thru this each time then to really tick off my wife right now. the stress is not good for Her & the Baby. And think heightened PMS x A Lot when angry. but if you don’t listen to me the first time i understand but the second time i know you will do what i advised. I just really advise this more for her than you my friend. when you are in this awesome situation you really want your wife always in the best state of mind. cause nothing is worse than making her feel like crap she will cry guaranteed. some times she will just cry cause she can. so take my advise don’t hurt her if you can help it. yeah….

-MeaD.

Wait?! What does two lines mean again?!

**I know before i really even start this this is going to be a long entry. there is alot i have to talk about  so before you even start sorry for the novel blog…

well… IM GOING TO BE A DAD!!!!!

yeah crazy. so i will start at the beginning.

Chrisitna & I found out about a week ago. We had a pretty good feeling that she was pregnant cause of certain signs she was showing.  We were really excited and thinking about all the awesome things that would happen if she is. Then she took the test and it was like…”is that another line?! IS THAT ANOTHER LINE!? first reactions: Me- I’m going to be a DaD!!!(super excited) Christina- Oh my god. what are we going to do. I’m Pregnant.(super worried about how we are going to do it) So of course she started worrying and I told her to just enjoy the moment. So we were SUPER excited and had to tell someone and we got dressed and we were at my MoM & DaD’s in 5 minutes. We told them and it was so awesome to tell my parents that I am going to be a parent. it was great the first thing that came out of my DaD’s mouth was “Really?! Well its about Damn Time!” my mom didn’t say much she was in shock i think but they were both happy. Everyone we told was really happy for us. that whole day we went visiting to everyone in my family and Christina’s Family. That was a very tiring day with all the visiting. I think the highlight of the whole trip is when we were at christina’s great grandma’s she is up in her years and so it started we got there and she was going to tell her right off. but she couldn’t get a word in edge wise which was hilarious. it wasn’t till 45 min of us being there when she finally told her and this is how the conversation went down:

GG(great grandma): Yeah so Mike is doing good with everything.

Christina: well thats good. So Guess what granny?

GG:What sweetie?

Chrisitna: I’m gunna have a baby.

GG: well thats great. So next week I am having a guy come in and grout my bathtub its gunna cost me 250 dollars and to finish it another 50dollars thats 300 dollars just for that.

Christina: …..oh……uh….really? how about that.

I love her great grandma she is so funny sometimes. We think that it kinda took her by surprise so she just didn’t know what to day but that. or just is just funny and old. so after we told the whole family we got home and took time to pass out and be exhausted. So then we really started to let it sink in and all the things that we have to start thinking about. We also started to make fun of how Christina has started to Pee like every hour. She was putting out more liquid than what was going in. I know for a fact there were some laws of physics being broke. then monday morning when we were driving into work I scheduled our first baby apt. and we were all excited. that night is when we had the start of what you never really hear about when expecting. all the fear that goes along with having a baby in that belly. Christina went to the bathroom and she noticed there was a little bleeding everything we read said that can happen with the implantation but she also was having cramping and all the books say having one of those is ok. but both together is bad. it is signs of a miscarriage. so that worried us to death so we called the doctor and he told us to come in the next morning. So we got to the doctors in the morning and they took blood and made her pee in a cup. Then we went in for a ultrasound which was really cool to see Christina’s insides. so they did that and the doc said the walls are getting thick and the hole is closed. so those were all good things to hear i was told. Then they told us to come back in two days to check  her levels to see if they are going up. so she did and they didn’t draw blood but they did another ultrasound. he told her everything is looking really good and he didn’t want to draw blood if he didn’t have too. but she was showing all the good signs and all her lab work came back really good. so we really got out of that scare but we are not out of the woods until we are out of our first trimester. I asked christina how many trimesters there are and she told me 3. then i figured out that play on words. So after that i felt really good and i decided to tell everyone at work about the baby. it was so hard that being the only place that i did tell the news. I told everyone and everyone was happy and it was great to tell. its one of those things where you really can’t wait to tell people of your great news. so i think i will end my very long novel blog. 

other things to notice with a crazy change on my life all at once i have created another Category 

FATHERHOOD

well my blog is most likely going to start changing into a weekly update kinda thing for everyone that wants to know what’s going on with christina and everything baby. I will still have my rants but just be aware that I am going to be ad DaD and thats all I’m really going to want to talk about. but i will still have my rants.

thx for reading,

-MeaD.